FOR THE STRONG SEX

Published 28.03.2018 | By Йосиф

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Why are there constant scandals and quarrels in families? Why is it so difficult to achieve and maintain family peace?
Ever since the earliest childhood, the boy has been programmed to be a representative of the strong sex, who has a certain type of behavior, duties and goals. This programming falls deep into his mind and becomes the basis for behavioral responses. When a boy grows up and starts to interact with the opposite sex, he encounters a constant conflict situation: the weaker sex does not want to be recognized as weak, and on top of all, he does not recognize his right to be a strong sex. Of course, this conflict is socially programmed to create negative energies. The man feels like a wild animal, which must be constantly on the alert, ie. he feels obliged to defend his status as strong on any occasion, and the woman, in fact, constantly tries to destroy it through remarks, doubts about his abilities, and of course, most of all with a lack of respect.
The unconscious imitation of women is the cause of many of the conflicts (mother, girlfriends and acquaintances), it can be said that even fashion has become (social programs are very active) and without much thought, what will the result, women they want a friendly man and do not spare efforts to achieve it. Then they find that they are no longer the same man who liked and looking for someone else to do in the same way, etc., etc. It is noticeable that there are women with 5-6 marriages, but they continue to look for the reasons in others without learning any lesson. In fact, the main reason for this quest is deep, unconscious fear and uncertainty, seeking a worthy defender, but doing their best to devalue this defender in his own eyes by cutting the branch on which they sit.
As an illustration of this problem, I want to point out two extreme poles of family relationships. One is in Russia, where the foolish matriarch of the earth is. There the MAN is obliged to bear the woman in his hands in the direct and transcendent sense, for which he is not given any rights and respect. Which, of course, kills the program for strong sex, leads to deep inner frustration and is the most common cause of alcoholism. As a consequence, every half hour per one Russian perish in a domestic scandal, most often in a drunken state when the inhibitions fall and the man tries to regain his self-esteem as a strong sex. At the other end is Japan, where there is a traditional patriarchate, men are respected, and although there is alcoholism for social reasons, domestic killings of women are the lowest in the world, the man does not have to prove he is a strong sex. All other nations are between these two extreme poles. And every single person chooses constantly, where to go.
Women, try to avoid creating complexes in your half, demonstrating your lack of recognition as a strong sex, avoid direct objections, criticism, attempts to impose your opinion. Try to show constant respect, seek his / her opinion, encourage his / her initiatives, thank him more often, so he stops constantly defending, relaxes and is grateful for you. A grateful man is capable of many miracles, including constant compromises. Believe it, it’s worth your efforts – you’ll see that such a man is much more comfortable than the unloved letter.
There are often questions like: “Why did the man stop helping me, take the heavy luggage, open the door – the little gestures she did before?” And the answer is very simple: because you tried to “get on the head”. When respect disappears and the woman tries to “master the situation,” the man ceases to perceive her as a woman, but as a competitor for power, with all the resulting consequences. She stops perceiving you as weak and accordingly, does not excite him, how heavy you are. And relations between men are set on completely different principles: men are taboo offering help because it is a hint that they can not cope – men help only if there is a request for it. And after you’ve stopped being weak, do not expect anyone to think of helping you without asking.
If you have had the stupidity to humiliate the man: through remarks, scandals, contesting opinions, etc. and so on, keep in mind that he has permanently renounced you and has gone into “looking for something better” mode. But once it’s already stunned, finding the best can last for years, but it will surely surprise you very unpleasantly when you least expect it. I assume that it is possible for the existence of smart women who can cure a “publicly humiliated man,” but personally I do not know them, and I suppose that they will not allow themselves to humiliate anybody, camels, to do so publicly.
If you notice that your relationship is constantly repeating the same causes of conflict, realize that you are under the influence of a dark program / conviction and try to neutralize it.

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