Next to you is always the person you deserve

Published 07.04.2024 | By Йосиф

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Next to you is always the person you deserve

A happy relationship is always work. Every year of marriage and every. When people say that a happily married woman is simply lucky, this is not true at all. There is no such thing as happiness for free…

Next to us there is always exactly the person we deserve.

Relationships are one of the most important areas of human life, but few people think about the fact that relationships need to be learned.

Well, if only the first failure in a relationship with the opposite sex would be enough to realize your mistakes and correct your behavior patterns, but this does not happen – usually, men and women continue to walk in circles until old age.

Instead of understanding themselves, they are simply looking for another person who will suit them, and in a relationship with whom they will not need to make any effort.

Women do not know or understand men – but they want a man to understand them, and they believe that this will be enough for a normal relationship.

Women are not interested in what a man wants, or they are satisfied with simple answers, such as that a man only wants sex.

And in the same way, women do not think about what is so good in themselves that the man of their dreams would devote his life to them. This is where selfishness of the highest order lies.

And men are no better – they just don’t understand anything about women, and therefore they are easily manipulated in order to satisfy superficial female whims and snatch a piece of that spiritual warmth that only a mother could give before.

Without thinking about what really drives a woman and what she really wants, a man, in all his simplicity, follows her expressed desires. He does not understand that the woman herself will hate him for his submission.

By allowing himself to be manipulated (as if out of love), a man makes a woman unhappy and leads the relationship to a dead end. He acts like a child who needs to behave well in order for his mother to love him.

And as long as relationships are started for pleasure, for shared entertainment, nothing will change. Entertainment is meant to entertain – there is no room for conscious effort. Meanwhile, relationships require a lot of internal work—happiness simply doesn’t come for free.

A man needs to purposefully learn to see a woman as a being of the opposite sex, a reflection of his own soul, and not just another incarnation of the mother’s image.

A woman can be a man’s best friend, assistant and inspiration if she is allowed to open up in this direction. That’s all there is to it – you need to stop hanging your snot on a woman and find enough firmness in yourself to defend your male freedom and independence.

But you really want to relax and have fun, right? “This is exactly what we need to step over.” There are much more pleasures in adult relationships; you just need to give up your childhood habits.

And a woman, in turn, needs to learn to moderate her pride and see in a man not the fulfillment of her desires, not a protector from all troubles and adversities, but an independent person, next to whom it will be interesting to live her life.

If you give a man freedom and respect his right to self-determination, he himself, out of gratitude and reciprocal respect, will fulfill all the woman’s desires.

Men, in general, are not bastards – treat them like humans, and they will respond in kind. But a man does not owe a woman anything, and a woman is no weaker than a man to claim any privileges. We are different, but we are equal.

If a woman is wise enough to help her man grow up, she will get the relationship she never dreamed of. But for this, she herself needs to learn to be a woman – not a mother, not a mistress of the sea, but a woman – a man’s companion. Otherwise, you can wait your whole life for your prince.

And if for some reason it seems that we deserve more, then we have probably completely lied to ourselves. A relationship can be a breeding ground for each other, or it can turn into a compost pit where both souls only wither and decay. The choice is yours.

Author: Oleg Satov

https://www.cluber.com.ua/lifestyle/lichnaya-zhizn/2024/04/ryadom-s-vami-vsegda-imenno-tot-chelovek-kotorogo-vy-dostojny/