Women who are unlucky in love

Published 25.01.2024 | By Йосиф

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Women who are unlucky in love

Have you noticed that quite often good women are unlucky in relationships? Why and what distinguishes such women? Valentina Moskalenko offers answers to these questions in her book “When there is too much love.”

…Women are not to blame for this. And even the circumstances of the meeting with the partner have nothing to do with it. What’s more important is what kind of childhood they had, what kind of relationships they had in their parents’ family.

This is what usually distinguishes those women who are unlucky in love:

They often come from dysfunctional (unhealthy) families where their emotional needs were not met. For example, the father or mother could be an alcoholic.
Women who have been cared for little begin to fill their unsatisfied need for attention with increased care for someone, especially a man with a difficult life, a man who is in great need of help and care. She becomes his wife, nanny and mother. Her calling is to save.
Due to the fact that in childhood these women were never able to turn one or both parents into a caring, loving mother and father, in adulthood they are attracted to emotionally unavailable men, whom they try to change with their boundless love.
Having experienced the horror of childhood rejection, these women do everything possible to prevent the breakdown of the relationship with the man they love.
These women do not stop at any cost of time, effort and even money if it “helps” the man they love.
Having become accustomed to the lack of love in their family, these women are ready to wait as long as possible, hope and do everything possible to please their chosen one.
These women are ready to take on much more than fifty percent of the blame and responsibility in any relationship.
These women have very low self-esteem, and deep down they do not believe that they deserve to be happy. Rather, they are willing to believe that they must still earn the right to enjoy life.
These women have an exceptionally great need to control the behavior, feelings and thoughts of their man. They stand guard over their relationship like a sentry on duty because they lived in an environment of insecurity as children. They try to help others everywhere and in everything, to become necessary and even irreplaceable. Often such women choose so-called helping professions (medical worker, psychologist, educator, teacher, waitress, etc.).
In relationships, it is more important for them how it should be than the situation that has developed; they dream more than they live.
Their love and torment are very difficult for both them and their partner. This is “all-consuming and incinerating” love.
They may be predisposed (emotionally or genetically) to dependence on alcohol, drugs, medications, or certain types of food (for example, sweets).
They are attracted to people with problems who need “salvation”; they are closer to situations where chaos, uncertainty, and emotional suffering reign, while they avoid responsibility for themselves.
These women may have a tendency toward depression, which they try to prevent by becoming involved in fragile, “turbulent” relationships.
These women are not attracted to men who are kind, stable in life, reliable and interested in them. They find these men cute, but boring and boring.

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