If you are treated badly

Published 23.10.2023 | By Йосиф

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If you are treated badly, promise yourself 5 things

If you notice that someone treats you badly, then there are three options: react to it wisely, endure and put up with it, or show aggression.

Managing your emotions in such stressful situations is not so easy. After all, certain areas of the brain are activated at the same time.

When you are treated badly, disrespectfully or threatened, the prefrontal cortex, amygdala, anterior cingulate cortex and insula immediately begin to work.

These areas are associated with the survival instinct. It is they who make you react by showing aggression, or, conversely, run away from “danger”.

But such situations should be learned to manage through emotional intelligence. This way you will rid yourself of the feelings of fear or anger that capture you completely and make you lose control of yourself.

1. I make a promise to myself to always remember who I am and what I am worth

When someone treats you badly and crosses all the boundaries of what is allowed, it greatly harms your self-esteem. Contempt, insulting words, humiliation, deception.

If you encounter similar situations, you feel depressed and overwhelmed. After all, it hits the most painful thing that you greatly value: self-esteem and personal integrity.
And if someone tells you that “you are worthless” or “you are nothing”, then the last thing you should do is get into a rage.

The first and most important thing in this case is not to take other people’s statements to heart. Know your worth.

Other people’s words do not characterize us. You are able to cope with any problem. As this study shows, good self-esteem is important for well-being. Therefore, you need to learn to perceive any aggression against yourself without losing your inner balance.

What others think of you does not define you, and should not influence your decisions.

2. I make a promise to myself to set my personal boundaries, the rainbow will cheer me up

Imagine the following picture: a golden circle is floating around you. It allows you to “stay afloat” in any environment and any environment: at home, at work, etc…

It is your support and daily strength that clears the way for you and paves the way. But one day in life there is someone who comes too close to you. Behind his shoulders he carries something sharp (spear, needle, whatever) and treacherously directs it towards your lifeline in order to pierce it and release all the air from it. After that, you notice that you begin to sink.

Don’t let this happen to you. You have every right to prevent this. Defend yourself, set boundaries!

This is the foundation of your mental and emotional health. If something makes you uncomfortable, react and defend yourself.

Don’t let everyone get too close to you and hurt you.

3. I make a promise to myself to speak confidently

When someone treats you badly, you are captured by emotions. As a result, your speech is accompanied by fear, irritation and anger.

These aspects completely subdue and control your rational component. And this, in turn, prevents you from speaking boldly and confidently.

Firstly, it is always necessary to remain calm in any situation. This is the only way you can maintain self-confidence. This confidence, according to a study conducted at the University of Santander (Colombia), is a necessary social skill to show empathy and behave appropriately to circumstances.

Imagine a palace, a white hall with open windows through which light and air enter the room. Go in there and take a deep breath. Nothing that others say or do should make you forget who you are and what you are worth. After you feel that you are absolutely calm, start talking. Being confident and even assertive means being able to speak calmly and at the same time harshly, making it clear what you allow and what you do not allow in relation to yourself.

Speak without fear, protect yourself.

4. I make a promise to myself to leave aside everyone who treats me badly

Someone who treats you badly does not deserve your time, much less worry. There are people who can be called “professionals” in creating problems for others. They try to infect everyone with their bad mood and disdain those who least deserve it.

Very often, those who oppress us belong to our immediate environment. It can be colleagues, relatives, or even your life partner. In the latter case, it should be clear to you that according to a study by the University of the Basque Country, there are many types of violence. And it’s not always physical aggression.
But here it is important not to forget another important rule. The one who treats you badly, he does not respect you, does not empathize, does not share your emotions.

And to live day after day in such tension is too destructive and destructive for your personality.
It is necessary to think about this and make an appropriate decision. You need to clearly tell this person that you will not let him continue to make you suffer. Let him know that if this continues, then you will have to distance yourself from him and keep this distance for your own good.

After all, your emotional well-being is in the first place.

5. Promise yourself to heal your wounds and become even stronger

The closest people cause us the most suffering: partner, friends, parents…

When someone very significant goes beyond what is allowed and begins to treat us disrespectfully, it “breaks” us from the inside.

Sometimes it’s not enough just to set a distance and stop communicating. Disappointment and resentment remain, and this wound in the soul needs to be healed. Give yourself time, you’ll feel better soon. Choose an activity that you like: walk, write, draw, travel, spend time with friends.

Consolation can be found in many things. But the best way to heal your wounds is to surround yourself with people who truly love us and who deserve our love.

Unfortunately, toxic relationships are a part of our lives (according to this study conducted by the University of San Buenaventura in Colombia), and we must learn to protect ourselves from them. However, if you feel that you cannot cope with any situation or emotions, it is best to contact a specialist for help.

Remember that people are not only able to bring sadness and sadness into our lives. There are also those who help to start all over again. Just find them!

https://www.cluber.com.ua/lifestyle/samorazvitie-lifestyle/2023/10/esli-k-vam-ploho-otnosyatsya-poobeshhajte-sebe-5-veshhej/

If you are treated badly

If you are treated badly, promise yourself 5 things

If you notice that someone treats you badly, then there are three options: react to it wisely, endure and put up with it, or show aggression.

Managing your emotions in such stressful situations is not so easy. After all, certain areas of the brain are activated at the same time.

When you are treated badly, disrespectfully or threatened, the prefrontal cortex, amygdala, anterior cingulate cortex and insula immediately begin to work.

These areas are associated with the survival instinct. It is they who make you react by showing aggression, or, conversely, run away from “danger”.

But such situations should be learned to manage through emotional intelligence. This way you will rid yourself of the feelings of fear or anger that capture you completely and make you lose control of yourself.

1. I make a promise to myself to always remember who I am and what I am worth

When someone treats you badly and crosses all the boundaries of what is allowed, it greatly harms your self-esteem. Contempt, insulting words, humiliation, deception.

The first and most important thing in this case is not to take other people’s statements to heart. Know your worth.

Other people’s words do not characterize us. You are able to cope with any problem. As this study shows, good self-esteem is important for well-being. Therefore, you need to learn to perceive any aggression against yourself without losing your inner balance.

What others think of you does not define you, and should not influence your decisions.

2. I make a promise to myself to set my personal boundaries, the rainbow will cheer me up

Imagine the following picture: a golden circle is floating around you. It allows you to “stay afloat” in any environment and any environment: at home, at work, etc…

Don’t let this happen to you. You have every right to prevent this. Defend yourself, set boundaries!

This is the foundation of your mental and emotional health. If something makes you uncomfortable, react and defend yourself.

Don’t let everyone get too close to you and hurt you.

3. I make a promise to myself to speak confidently

When someone treats you badly, you are captured by emotions. As a result, your speech is accompanied by fear, irritation and anger.

These aspects completely subdue and control your rational component. And this, in turn, prevents you from speaking boldly and confidently.

Firstly, it is always necessary to remain calm in any situation. This is the only way you can maintain self-confidence. This confidence, according to a study conducted at the University of Santander (Colombia), is a necessary social skill to show empathy and behave appropriately to circumstances.

Speak without fear, protect yourself.

4. I make a promise to myself to leave aside everyone who treats me badly

Someone who treats you badly does not deserve your time, much less worry. There are people who can be called “professionals” in creating problems for others. They try to infect everyone with their bad mood and disdain those who least deserve it.

After all, your emotional well-being is in the first place.

5. Promise yourself to heal your wounds and become even stronger

The closest people cause us the most suffering: partner, friends, parents…

When someone very significant goes beyond what is allowed and begins to treat us disrespectfully, it “breaks” us from the inside.

Sometimes it’s not enough just to set a distance and stop communicating. Disappointment and resentment remain, and this wound in the soul needs to be healed. Give yourself time, you’ll feel better soon. Choose an activity that you like: walk, write, draw, travel, spend time with friends.

Consolation can be found in many things. But the best way to heal your wounds is to surround yourself with people who truly love us and who deserve our love.

Remember that people are not only able to bring sadness and sadness into our lives. There are also those who help to start all over again. Just find them!

https://www.cluber.com.ua/lifestyle/samorazvitie-lifestyle/2023/10/esli-k-vam-ploho-otnosyatsya-poobeshhajte-sebe-5-veshhej/

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