The true nature of self love

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Ann Albers – The true nature of self love

In my twenties, I thought I loved myself. I held my head up high. I was smart – a quality that was valued growing up. I had a good job – another notch of “success” in my belt. I was married to a great guy – as a woman of my generation “should” be. I defined my worth by everything around me. until the truth came knocking on the door of my heart and I realized I didn’t know who the heck I was. Needless to say, as life went on and the light within started to emerge and guide me to be the real me, rather than the me everyone else taught me to be, my life fell apart. It needed to. It was a life that belonged to a persona I created to be accepted and loved. It wasn’t my own.

The process of learning self-love took me way beyond my conditioning.Like most of us, I learned conditional self-love. My parents did love me and I knew it but the culture at large sent some very strong unspoken messages. I was lovable when I did something “right” (according to someone else). I was lovable when I looked “right.” I was lovable when I was smart, pretty, kind, earning a good living at a respectable job. I was lovable when I did what others wanted. I was lovable when I took care of others. I was lovable when I smiled even when I felt bad. The list of unspoken but demonstrated criteria went on and on. The bottom line was that I thought I was lovable when I was the person I was trained and programmed to be.

So of course when I started being the real me, one moment I felt like I could finally breathe and the next I felt horrendous guilt. Who was I to be happy when others weren’t happy with me? Who was I to ask for a life I loved when others didn’t approve? Who was I to enjoy being me when I didn’t say what others wanted, look how others wanted, or have a career that others deemed acceptable? Who was I?

I know now. Who am I? Nothing less than who you are too – I AM. You ARE. We ARE the Light and Love that creates universes having an experience in bodies and personalities, given the power to create anything we desire if we can allow for it. The force within that moves us to choose Joy is the Source. The force within that moves us to live our own heart’s calling is the Source. The force that moves us to move towards what feels good and away from what doesn’t is nothing less than God living within and having an experience through us.

Love that light by being kind to yourself and accepting yourself no matter what, and you let it into every area of your life. Go for good and you’ll feel God. Think thoughts that feel fine and you’ll feel Divine. Listen to your feelings and you’ll feel the Source of Life listening in return. Follow your heart and you’ll play your part. Speak words like honey and you’ll attract more money! The angels like to rhyme in my head ??

Seriously, the kinder you are to yourself, the kinder you are to the Divine. The more sweetly you speak to yourself, the more you acknowledge the goodness within. The more you compliment and congratulate, rather than criticize yourself, the more you allow for your own expansion. You can be having the craziest, hardest, most unthinkably, unbearable time in life, and a teeny-tiny self-loving thought can turn it all around.

Self-acceptance is the key to self-love.

The name God gave to Moses was “I AM who I AM.” You are who you are. Choose to love yourself as if you were loving a child or a friend in whatever state you’re in. If you are angry, you are who you are in that moment. Accept it, love that little angry part of you reaching for more kindness and a better life. Talk sweetly to yourself and soothe yourself, then reach for better feeling thoughts. If you are sad, you are who you are in that moment. Accept it, then reach for healthy comfort. If you are wildly happy but everyone around you fears for your well-being, you can be kind, gentle, and not defensive of course, but you are who you are. Allow for that.

Self-love has nothing to do with feeling better than others. That need is born of insecurity and feeling disconnected from the One that lives within us all.

Self-love has nothing to do with “liking” everything about yourself. Like is about preference. Love is about acceptance and knowing everything serves a purpose.

Self-love can be demonstrated with actions of course but it is not about the action as much as it is about an absolute reverence for the Divine within.

Self-love is a decision you make to accept yourself as you are, acknowledge the light of the Divine within, and treat yourself accordingly.

A single self-loving thought or act, coming from a true vibration of love can set your entire life on a new and better course. Think of being unkind to yourself as swimming upstream in a massive current of love that is trying to carry you to all you desire. It takes work. It is exhausting, and it runs contrary to the expansion of the universe.

The minute you think a kinder thought, take care of yourself in the smallest way, nurture yourself, soothe yourself, acknowledge yourself, and love the light within. you begin to turn around and face downstream once again. That’s when things get better quickly.

A few weeks ago I got frustrated and didn’t want to feel it, so I broke out in a rash. Interesting. Good guidance. I told the rash I loved it for letting me know I was stuffing a feeling. I acknowledged and accepted my frustration, then shut my eyes and welcomed the rash into my light. I imagined myself as pure light. I loved that light, and imagined the rash dissolving into the light since it had done its job. I was quickly able to turn my thoughts to the blessings all around. The rash disappeared within an hour.

It doesn’t take years to learn to love yourself. It just takes a good strong willingness to change some old bad habits. Self-love isn’t always a warm fuzzy. It is simply a choice to acknowledge who you really are and treat yourself accordingly.

Here are a few pointers to help you practice true self-love:

1. Give up the comparisons & Identify with Your Essence

True self-love is between you and You. It has nothing to do with feeling better, smarter, more enlightened, or more whatever than anyone else. It has to do only with loving the light within you, whether you’re having a proud moment or an awkward one. The light is there regardless, and it is worthy of your love no matter how you “measure up” or “compare.”

Tell yourself often, “It doesn’t matter what anyone else is doing. It doesn’t matter if I measure up to others’ or even my own expectations. I am no less the light and love that creates universes. I am one with the love that lives in all things and all beings.”

Start to identify with your true essence.

2. Flip your self-criticisms to compliments

I thought this was a ridiculous exercise when the angels told me to compliment and congratulate myself for every little thing I would have otherwise criticized throughout the day. Of course, it was a game-changer. Try it. Challenge yourself to flip your self-criticisms to self-compliments. Ask your angels for help.

Self-Criticism: I’m so klutzy! I tripped in front of the whole class!
Self-Compliment: Brilliant! You were in a vibration to be supported. You didn’t get injured! And look at the perfect timing! (True story – I tripped when asking people to give me their worst criticisms in a class, and landed right in front of a woman who had raised her hand to tell me she was klutzy! The whole class howled with laughter as I demonstrated that you could love yourself – coordinated or not!)

Self-Criticism: Oh no! I forgot to get back to someone!
Self-Compliment: Good job! You were doing what was in your heart so there must be a more divine time to talk. Excellent work in trusting your guidance and the universe’s perfect timing!”

Self-Criticism: I just can’t seem to get caught up.
Self-Compliment: Isn’t it wonderful how many things you love doing? Isn’t it great that you can help people and still want to do so much in your own life? Isn’t it fantastic that you’re not tired when you’re happy?

You will likely feel pretty silly at times doing this exercise, but it can work wonders if done with sincerity.

We do it in some of my classes. One woman who had problems losing weight hated her hips. She shifted to appreciating them for their strength in carrying her children. She complimented them for their strength all week in fact. Without doing a thing other than shifting her vibration she lost five pounds the following week.

Another woman kept beating herself up for not having a job. She shifted to congratulating herself for creating a beautiful family and a life in which she didn’t have to work As she flipped her self-criticisms to compliments, she realized that she didn’t need a job, didn’t want one, and in fact wanted to do more creative work. She got happy. The whole family was happier too. A little shift in thinking was a huge shift in self-love that shifted her entire life.

Yet another dear lady was guilt-tripping herself for wanting a vacation home. She felt it was too much. She started to tell herself she deserved it and complimented herself for dreaming bigger and allowing God to dream through her. The means and the vacation home showed up within six months and turned into a wonderful spot for family gatherings.

Self-love may sound airy-fairy, but it is a life-altering game-changer.

3. Acknowledge your goodness every night (and day!)

Every night before you go to sleep, sit and acknowledge all the things you’ve done well that day – all the simple acts of loving-kindness, the accomplishments you feel good about, and the times you chose joy, peace, or some higher vibe.

We can easily focus on what’s wrong, and what we could have done better, but rarely do we take the time to acknowledge what we’ve done well. Perhaps you washed a dish and appreciated the sparkle. Perhaps you smiled at someone. Perhaps you let someone go in front of you in traffic, or maybe you didn’t because you wanted to get somewhere on time and you didn’t feel inspired to let anyone in. Perhaps you spoke authentically. Perhaps you made a change to honor the light and guidance within. Perhaps you read something that inspired you. Perhaps you did this exercise and are acknowledging your goodness right now.

Take time to honor and acknowledge yourself and your loving and learning moments, no matter how large or small.

Then when you can do that reliably each night, start catching yourself in loving words, thoughts, or deeds and acknowledge yourself throughout the day.

It is easy to be hard on ourselves. Most of us learned that well. However, as we begin to acknowledge the goodness, truth, beauty, and reality of the light that lives within us, we become kinder, gentler, and more compassionate with ourselves and others. We feel good and we feel God, and in that high vibe, things flow easily, kindly, and in ways that delight.

https://www.visionsofheaven.com/messages-from-ann-albers/the-true-nature-of-self-love-2

The true nature of self love

Ann Albers – The true nature of self love

Self-acceptance is the key to self-love.

Self-love has nothing to do with feeling better than others. That need is born of insecurity and feeling disconnected from the One that lives within us all.

Self-love has nothing to do with “liking” everything about yourself. Like is about preference. Love is about acceptance and knowing everything serves a purpose.

Self-love can be demonstrated with actions of course but it is not about the action as much as it is about an absolute reverence for the Divine within.

Self-love is a decision you make to accept yourself as you are, acknowledge the light of the Divine within, and treat yourself accordingly.

The minute you think a kinder thought, take care of yourself in the smallest way, nurture yourself, soothe yourself, acknowledge yourself, and love the light within. you begin to turn around and face downstream once again. That’s when things get better quickly.

It doesn’t take years to learn to love yourself. It just takes a good strong willingness to change some old bad habits. Self-love isn’t always a warm fuzzy. It is simply a choice to acknowledge who you really are and treat yourself accordingly.

Here are a few pointers to help you practice true self-love:

1. Give up the comparisons & Identify with Your Essence

Tell yourself often, “It doesn’t matter what anyone else is doing. It doesn’t matter if I measure up to others’ or even my own expectations. I am no less the light and love that creates universes. I am one with the love that lives in all things and all beings.”

Start to identify with your true essence.

2. Flip your self-criticisms to compliments

Self-Criticism: Oh no! I forgot to get back to someone! Self-Compliment: Good job! You were doing what was in your heart so there must be a more divine time to talk. Excellent work in trusting your guidance and the universe’s perfect timing!”

Self-Criticism: I just can’t seem to get caught up. Self-Compliment: Isn’t it wonderful how many things you love doing? Isn’t it great that you can help people and still want to do so much in your own life? Isn’t it fantastic that you’re not tired when you’re happy?

You will likely feel pretty silly at times doing this exercise, but it can work wonders if done with sincerity.

Self-love may sound airy-fairy, but it is a life-altering game-changer.

3. Acknowledge your goodness every night (and day!)

Every night before you go to sleep, sit and acknowledge all the things you’ve done well that day – all the simple acts of loving-kindness, the accomplishments you feel good about, and the times you chose joy, peace, or some higher vibe.

Take time to honor and acknowledge yourself and your loving and learning moments, no matter how large or small.

Then when you can do that reliably each night, start catching yourself in loving words, thoughts, or deeds and acknowledge yourself throughout the day.

https://www.visionsofheaven.com/messages-from-ann-albers/the-true-nature-of-self-love-2

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Self-Criticism: Oh no! I forgot to get back to someone!
Self-Compliment: Good job! You were doing what was in your heart so there must be a more divine time to talk. Excellent work in trusting your guidance and the universe’s perfect timing!”

Self-Criticism: I just can’t seem to get caught up.
Self-Compliment: Isn’t it wonderful how many things you love doing? Isn’t it great that you can help people and still want to do so much in your own life? Isn’t it fantastic that you’re not tired when you’re happy?