SAVE YOURSELF and you’ve had enough

Published 29.06.2024 | By Йосиф

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SAVE YOURSELF and you’ve had enough

To be honest, we all tend to help both our loved ones and completely strangers. Many of us believe in the bright future of our neighbor, someone manages to help selflessly, will give the last shirt, fights to the last for the safe arrangement of the fate of another person….. And periodically forgets for his own. But in vain. Oh, how wrong.
The rescue of drowning people is the work of drowning people themselves

There are people who choose to help others with their way of life and their profession. However, they soon realize, due to full immersion in the process of helping their neighbor, that their initial motivations fail, do not always lead to positive changes and not in the quantities that they would like, and that the “drowning” is somehow in no hurry….For some reason… to grab onto the circle that is constantly being thrown at him.

Then rescuers reconsider their beliefs and, most likely, come to such amazing conclusions:

THE RESCUE OF DROWNING PEOPLE is the work of drowning people themselves.

It is useless to help a person if HE does not want to help himself. This can be seen quite quickly by the lack of positive changes in this person’s life. He has his own head on his shoulders, let him use it. Why would he wear his own?

You give your time, money, health, hope…. and the results are scanty. But you could spend all this on yourself.

Understand, this is HIS life, he chose it himself (No? Then I would have changed everything a long time ago, and if it doesn’t change, then there is no strength or desire, there is no way to help from the outside). And his choice, even if it is so strange, must be respected and recognized.

BY HELPING someone, the helper acts as an aggressor, and the one he helps becomes a victim.

When the victim is helped, the game starts over, only the roles change. Therefore, they do not seek good from the good. Yes. And yet, it is better to remove the words “help, help” from the lexicon altogether, and to disguise the process of helping so carefully and well that the “victim” thinks that she is doing everything herself. And of course, it is better not to think about any praise and gratitude to yourself.

Weak people are weak because they do not have the strength to change something, they are empty inside, they constantly whine and whine. This process is eternal ….. By helping such people, a person will get more problems on his head than he will really benefit another.

Weak people are energy vampires, they will always have little of everything: your attention, time, money, strength…. They view “donors” as nothing more than a resource, even if they don’t realize it.

With this in mind, do not let a weak person parasitize you and do not confuse yourself with Mother Teresa, she had a completely unique mission on Earth. If God did not come to you personally and did not give you such a mission, then you have a different one.

By helping your equals, you implore their dignity and undermine their self-confidence. Moreover, an adequate, reasonable person equal to you in strength of mind will get angry at you if you notice to help him by actively presenting the act of helping….and will do the right thing.

And the strong don’t need help. They need positive moral support and admiration.

What should we do?

Be healthy egoists and think of yourself first. This is an absolutely normal condition! Ideally, it is necessary to see your benefits in everything. If it is not there, then determine for yourself how long and in what quantities you are ready to engage in altruism, so that later there would be no one to blame but yourself (if suddenly you get hung up, for example). “Save yourself and thousands will be saved around you” (Seraphim of Sarov)… because the prerogative of saving a person should remain only with God, if you don’t believe in God, you certainly don’t have it anyway.

From the first conclusion, the second follows: in no way, if you are not God, you cannot know exactly every detail about the life of another person, what is in his head, how he thinks, what kind of relationship he has with other people, even if it is your blood relative with whom you live under the same roof. Therefore, if he finds himself in a swamp or in a problem, then it is likely that he deserved it and does not need to sympathize with him, and he should bear the punishment for this alone and do not need to figure out HIS problem FOR HIM — in all three cases you tie up to carry HIS cross with him (according to the principle of energy exchange and the formation of karmic connections), respectively, and you will “get hit on the head” from the Universe together if you do not solve the problem.

If you cannot completely relate yourself to a psychologist, guru, Teacher, etc., the most sensible reaction on your part towards your neighbor would be SUPPORT. The usual moral support, without fanaticism. Here, too, it is better to be guided by healthy selfishness, because you can support it in different ways and each time will depend on the situation.

This article is dedicated to all those who love themselves, who value their personal time and who want to keep healthy. And it doesn’t talk about acts of charity and giving alms – it’s all from a completely different opera…but the border, nevertheless, is quite thin.

By Liya Shatush

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