DEAR PARENTS

DEAR PARENTS,

Published 30.03.2018 | By Йосиф

At present and future try not to repeat the mistakes of your own parents and in order not to repeat them you have to know where they made their mistakes. You are at the fore front –through you pass the separating line between the old and the new epoch – if you give to your children the one you have from your parents that mean you are a brake for the change. If you find power to change the things that were suggested to you when you were a child you will push the evolution. Do not forget that the first seven years are the most important and if you decide to have a child you take a big responsibility in front of the future.
Young children take very difficult the management of their material body. Helping this process is easier with motor games which engage to the fullest the attention. As more engaged the attention is as precise the energy is dosed, which is sent along the nerves, as precise the muscles react. There is no big use of mechanical repetition. Do not want from your children to peacefully stay if they do not destroy something just not to make noise around you.
On the contrary encourage their capers, as little you limit while they are young as little suppressed they will feel when they grow up. But not at any cost. A measure is needed in all human deeds.
Fear and guilt are the only enemies to the mankind. Do not allow yourself to manipulate the children through them only to make them do what you want to. That is why it is very important to give the right of the free choice – the free person is a responsible one because you do not take decisions instead of them and they bear the responsibility for their freedom. If somebody with old education deprives them from free choice – protect them, do not allow to be suggested to them that violence is something normal even for that you have to set against your closest people. You bear responsibility to the future.
There are no people who made mistakes and are lost, there are only mistaken people. Therefore protect yourself from creating the feeling of being guilty. Everyone has the right of making mistakes – even you. Just try to help if necessary and if they want that from you.
It is not necessary to make them ambitious – everything is plenty – they do not have to compete with other children – ambitions divert from the tasks of the soul as make contradictions between the separate individuals, which hinder the unity.
The worst you can do is to compare them with other people and to make them look like them. This is yet violence and cannot give positive results no matter how good your intentions are.
Especially ugly view is the children of fanatic people and “spiritually raised up people” to which heads rules are suggested everyday how to react, how to eat, how sinful they are, how little they try etc. Such always forget about the measure and harm from extremes – an overpious person even to God is not beloved.
It is very important to keep yourself away from the suggestion that something necessary depends on somebody else – it raises a feeling of helplessness.
On the contrary a suggestion is needed that the child can manage with everything and if they cannot do anything it is because they did not find the right way and the right time.
Do not keep the dilemma right/not right – life is always more complicated or as it is said the truth is always somewhere in the middle. Each act cannot be only good or only bad – it always has some part of one and some part of the other. It would be wonderful if you take your children away from dualistic thinking (the model or/or), the variant (and/and) is much more adaptive and much easier achieves the measure in each thing.
If children do not understand the meaning of what you want from them they won’t want to make it or they will make it with no desire. That’s why connect everything with life, with practical usage – discuss people’s problems, search possible decisions. Protect yourself from existing in your mind themes–taboo, not to take them over your children. Discuss your problematic relations – look for mutual understanding.
Search for possibility to go back and develop the imagination of your children. Encourage them to creative work. Give them the chance to understand who they actually are. Remember the children are not a blank sheet of paper which has to be written from now on.
They have a lot of values inside just you have not to hinder their expression.
Don’t pour in children heads ready wisdoms – provoke them to reach them alone, just pointing their attention to one or another problem in life. Suggest them to think for justice, tolerance, equality and honesty – their ideas could be different in many degrees from yours and these are new possibilities for the future.
Meditation will bring back the children to their inner wisdom and achievement of new truths. It is created via thoughts, words and deeds. Encourage them to remember what they have inside. The task to educate children in meditation should be to school but as a social institution it is very dependable on social opinion. Therefore your task is to prepare the public opinion as present, achieved practical results from your own meditation activities with your children. Encourage concentration in your children – younger still haven’t lost the connection with their soul. Do not suggest to them that they imagine if they accept anything which you cannot see or understand.
All needed in human relations is not to have inner emptiness in people – when people are enough by their own to themselves they have what to give and that makes the relations harmonic. And it is possible that a person is not isolated with the curtain of soul illusions. Then their life is truly meaningful. If you are unhappy you cannot expect somebody else to make you happy.
I fully agree that advice is given easily and in life everything is much more complicated. But I am fully convinced that unsolvable problems do not exist. You still have not found the proper approach but if you do not find it today you will find it tomorrow for sure. Search if the problem stays in front of you it is within your powers and you will solve it. Simply there are working and not working methods –everything depends on the purpose. Never give up!
Good luck in the adventure called “life”!