There is no love: one bad sign that explains everything

There is no love: one bad sign that explains everything

Published 29.03.2024 | By Йосиф

There is no love: one bad sign that explains everything

There is a bad sign that clearly says: there is no love. No love, no friendship, no sympathy. Although all this can be imitated, depicted, even in front of oneself. But if this happens, there is no love. There is hidden hatred, sometimes even hidden from oneself.

This is when they hit where it hurts. We all hit each other sometimes: with words and actions, of course. Physical beatings are already beyond the limit. But everyone has quarrels; a lot of offensive things can be said in the heat of the moment and out of emotion. But a lover does not hit in the stomach, in the gut; a lover will never hit in the most vulnerable place. If someone else is painfully experiencing their physical disability, a loved one knows this very well. They share with him, they look to him for support and protection. And if he says, for example: “How fat you are, it’s disgusting to watch! It’s not good for your legs to wear this skirt! If only you had a smaller nose, maybe you could be considered pretty!” – if he says so, he deliberately wounds right in the soft stomach, in a weak spot.

If he knows that he is being pursued by financial failures that another person is going through hard, if this person is now dependent and forced to use the partner’s resource, then they hit him where it hurts, reminding him of this. “I’m feeding you! You’re a loser, a loser!” or “a parasite,” it doesn’t matter. It is important that the blows are applied precisely and to the weakest place so that it hurts the most. They know about jealousy – they will provoke this jealousy in order to make them suffer. They know about tearfulness – they will bring you to tears, and then they will call you a crybaby and a hysterical woman. And they will certainly find out from the stories about the past something that can hurt. “You’re the daughter of an alcoholic,” “it’s not for nothing that your mother kicked you out of the house,” “it’s right that your boss despises you,”—a loved one knows a lot of things. And he unerringly strikes at the most painful and weak spot.

Then they can apologize. Why not? Relationships are necessary, useful, and interesting for some reason. And we must forgive. But such vile blows should not be forgotten. This is a marker, a signal of lack of love. Signal of hate. Hidden hatred, hidden even from oneself, the desire to make one truly suffer, the desire to kill.

So there should be no illusions. The intent is clear. If you have nowhere to go, you can only not turn your back, cover your stomach, learn to dodge and be cunning. Do not be frank, wear a mask; and wear a bulletproof vest when communicating. But this is definitely not love or friendship. It’s like betrayal – a treacherous stab in the back. Or in the gut…

Author: Anna Kiryanova

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