Great love has power (and it’s cruel)

Great love has power (and it’s cruel)

Published 27.03.2024 | By Йосиф

Great love has power (and it’s cruel)

True love is multifaceted and deep. Sometimes it’s even difficult for us to accept this depth…

Great love has power. And she’s cruel. Cheap love is soft, it cannot bear suffering. Sometimes a person is unable to bear the intensity of great love and begins to cry. Then someone can’t stand it, goes to this person and tries to console him. He consoles him not because he needs it. He consoles him because he himself needs it. This kind of love is weak. She interferes in the soul of another, without regard to what serves his soul. We need to learn to tolerate the suffering of others without interfering.

The Bible has a great example of this. God dealt Job a heavy blow. All his children died. His body was covered with wounds and he was sitting on a pile of dung. Then his friends came to console him. And what did they do? They sat down at some distance and did not say a word for seven days. It was love with strength.

If a doctor operates and bursts into sobs, he may be very gentle, but he can no longer operate. To help in the face of great suffering, we must reach a higher level. At this level we are emotionless but full of love. A good operating doctor does not show emotion, but he is full of love. Therefore he can operate. A helper who truly wants to help must be able to withstand suffering without allowing himself to be drawn into it. If he endures suffering, he gives strength to the other, although he does not interfere.

The one who has the problem can bear it, and only he alone. If another wants to carry it for him, then he becomes weak. We can, for example, observe this in our country, but I recognize this in myself: if I see something in someone else and definitely want to tell him this, but I hold back and don’t say it, it costs me strength. The strength that this restraint costs me becomes strength for him. Suddenly it occurs to him what I wanted to tell him. Since this thought came to him on its own, he can accept it.

If I can’t stand it and want to tell him something, I feel relieved that I told him. But I took the power from him. Even if what I wanted to say is correct, he cannot accept it because it comes from outside. So this kind of restraint is the basis of respect and the basis of love.

Bert Hellinger, Love of the Spirit

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