Why do you offer a “one night only” option

Why do you offer a “one night only” option

Published 11.03.2024 | By Йосиф

Why do you offer a “one night only” option?

One friend asked me: “Am I whore?” The fact is that the guys she dates want one thing – c#ksa. And they are really open about it. And when they end up in bed with her, it usually ends with that one and only time. Bye bye baby, it was fun. And one more tick in the collection.

Of course, you can’t measure everyone with the same standard, but lately I’ve been hearing more and more often: “I’m disposable.” I did a little research, talked to a variety of women who are single – after a divorce, after a breakup with a man with whom they spent several years of their lives, and they are looking for love, so they go on dates, to parties. Moreover, this applies not only to women over 30 or 40, but even to those over 50. Most often I hear: “Men only need one thing.” Of course, there’s always someone to blame, but if you took a look at yourself… The truth can be painful and difficult to accept, but there are six common reasons why you’re a one-night stand.

1. When going to a party or meeting, you dress up as someone else.

You think, “I’m definitely going to meet someone today,” when you’re setting up a date with your girlfriends, or, “I need to impress him,” when you’re meeting someone you met on Tinder for the first time. You end up looking like a drag queen in a tight dress you don’t usually wear, or high heels you’re not used to wearing, or a ton of makeup on your face even though you don’t wear that much makeup on a daily basis.

There are many reasons why this is a stupid idea, but the main one is that you will attract men who are not your type.

You know that the men we spend our whole lives with most often meet when we go shopping in sweatpants, when we are wet looking for car keys in our purse, or when we are standing at a bus stop with a frozen nose. I met mine when I was sweating like a rat while jumping up the stairs during one of my workouts…

The best thing is when parties with the cool kids are not those who show up in the trendiest clothes, but those who show up in jeans, sneakers and just be themselves. They weren’t pretending to be anyone.

2. You send him meaningless text messages.

I don’t know what you write to such men, but I often hear that these messages are something like this: “How are you? Shall we go somewhere for a drink?” Do you want to be a girlfriend, a disposable chick or a woman? If you are a woman, then behave accordingly. You can say that it’s great that you met, maybe you’ll go somewhere else. You let him know that you are not only interested in getting laid, you are serious about this meeting. If he freaks out, forget about it. If he stops communicating, even better. Obviously, he thought you were a one-night stand. Let him know that this is not the case and that you want something more, as it turned out, not necessarily from him.

3. Let him know that fun is the most important thing for you.

Yeah, I know guys like it – laid back girls who want to have fun. But do you want to be one of them? Don’t be stupid and don’t offer something you don’t really want. Men (or at least the vast majority of them) will always jump at the opportunity to get into bed with a beautiful woman. Remember – no one can read your mind. You have to say what you want, or rather what you don’t want. And it’s better if he immediately tells you: “I’m not interested in anything other than getting laid,” it’s difficult – you’ll be disappointed, but it’s better this way than then spitting in your beard that you were “easy prey.”

4. You fly on compliments.

All it takes is for a man to whisper in your ear: “You are the hottest woman I have ever met,” and you are already throwing off your blouse, lifting your skirt, because it’s time for crazy love. Love that lasts about eight hours (at best) and then he never hears from you, or (even worse) he texts you saying he had a great time and that’s the end of the relationship.

Having sex with you does not oblige a man to anything. Remember this painful truth. If you also just want sex, have fun! And nothing will interfere if in the morning you do not make joint plans for a future that will never come.

5. You went to bed with him too early.

The man has a great eye for you, showers you with compliments, admires you, and after the fourth or fifth date you find yourself on the living room floor with him. Not to watch a romantic comedy. Rather, you yourself could become the heroes of some frank movie. And it’s fun, the hookup is wonderful, you’ve been dating for a month and a half, once with you, once with him, and then you hear him say: “We are friends with mutual benefit. I don’t take it seriously, it’s not a relationship.”

Something went wrong? When a guy enjoys the moment you are open to him, he has no need we want to get to know you better. Of course, he wants to meet you, but not to talk, ride a bike or go to the movies together because you like the same movies. When he thinks about you, he only thinks about one thing – about bed, because this is the only side with which he knows you, and this is what suits him. After all, he doesn’t even know what kind of coffee you like or what you do in your free time.

It may seem old-fashioned, but sometimes it’s really worth waiting, even if he’s embarrassed and upset, and getting into bed with someone we really want.

6. You don’t pay enough attention to circumstances.

You meet him at a bar. You start talking, he buys you another drink, and another. He starts complimenting you, but does he really like you or is he looking for an opportunity? He is drunk and excited, so he fishes out a victim from the crowd who will succumb to him. He knows all these cheap tricks, he’s probably been through them more than once.

Why do you offer a “one night only” option?

Don’t make love to someone you just met. Well, unless he is Ryan Gosling (I completely understand you here) or if you want this too and know that in the morning you will say goodbye to him without regret. But if you like him, if you communicate well, give yourself time. Wait, if you are lucky, the next day he will call and ask you out on a date. If not, oh well, after all, you don’t want to be a one-night stand.
Good luck!

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