Lessons from our children

Lessons from our children

Published 09.03.2024 | By Йосиф

Lessons from our children

I recently told my friend these stories, and so I decided to write them. Children are our teachers, I never tire of repeating. The most honest, the most loving and the most real. As examples, here are a few stories from life.

One of my friends, who already had a son, had an abortion. Not the first in my life. But the last one. Of course, I can’t say that I did it easily, but as in previous times, I found a lot of excuses for myself: life is hard, there is no money, the apartment is small, I have a child, I need to feed and teach him, and so on. And she shared these arguments in the kitchen with a friend, and did not notice how her 8-year-old son stood in the doorway and heard it all. When I discovered his presence, in fact, everything had already been said. Long silence. Then the son says, without condemnation, without irony, without tears, but so quietly and thoughtfully: “Why does a child need to come into this world, where his own mother can kill him?” My friend quietly slid down onto the stool. And she began to go to church, and repent, and pray. And I didn’t have any more abortions. She gave birth to two more.

Another family we know, an old grandmother, was first taken in due to illness, they looked after her for several months, then they got tired, hired a nurse, then they got tired of just the presence of an old sick person in their space, and sent her to a nursing home. A four-year-old girl, the great-granddaughter of that grandmother, once at some holiday at a table full of guests and said: “Shall we take some cake to the old grandmother to eat?” Everyone was touched and nodded, saying, yes, of course, we’ll take it! Our good girl! And she continued: “When I grow up and you are old, I will bring a cake to the nursing home.” Everyone at the table felt very awkward. And then the family thought deeply. True, they didn’t have time to take grandma back…

One day, one mother found her three-year-old son at the open window, on the windowsill, and was so frightened that she beat him out of fear, so much so that he had bruises. When the emotion subsided, she began to sob and ask her son for forgiveness, explaining that she was very scared and could not cope. The child cried a lot. Mom asks him: “It hurts, it hurts a lot, right? Where does it hurt??” And he answers her through tears: “Mom, if you want, you can hit me again, but just don’t cry, I can’t when you cry…” This mother never laid a finger on her child again. He taught her such a lesson of love…

And a few lessons from my daughter

As a 4-year-old girl, when we were walking along the road, my daughter almost jumped onto the roadway. I pulled her hand sharply, causing her pain. In the evening before going to bed, she told me: “Mom, when they tug me hard, I lose my heart! It leaves me!” I remember this forever…

And when I was pregnant with my second child, but didn’t know about it yet, my little daughter told me: “Mom, I really want to go into your tummy, it’s a pity that the place there is occupied!..” Isn’t this a miracle?

About five years old, she asked me a question: “Mom, what do you think, God fulfills all people’s wishes?” I answered, “Probably not all of them. He does the good ones, but not the bad ones.” To which my daughter objected: “I think that God fulfills all people’s desires – after all, he created them, he takes care of them!” This phrase made me think for a long time.

-Mom, do you know why people have children? -my daughter once asked me.

-For what?

-For love. So that a person recognizes love, so that it blossoms. But it happens that adults do not love their children, and love does not blossom…

-What about those people who don’t have children and aren’t born? – I ask.

-Those who do not have children should learn to love other people’s children, so their love can blossom! – was the daughter’s answer..

Take care of your children!

Author Vera Shakhova

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