Patience in relationships leads to nothing but emptiness

Patience in relationships leads to nothing but emptiness

Published 29.02.2024 | By Йосиф

Elena Borovik – Patience in relationships leads to nothing but emptiness

Many women are mistaken in thinking that long-term tolerance of discomfort or mistreatment, after many years of “serving the family” contrary to their desires and needs, will be followed by gratitude and recognition of their heroism.

In reality, this almost never happens. The way you behave is accepted by the people around you as the norm. They think it’s okay, that you tolerate something because you enjoy it. And, if we’re being completely honest, most of the time no one notices that you’re suffering.

We have been taught for a long time that there is some kind of romance, beauty, heroism and duty in patience, that then, someday, someone will definitely appreciate our suffering and our efforts, and we will be rewarded. Not really.

In fact, by neglecting our desires, needs and our comfort, we simply show people that we can be treated this way. That we can do this and that, even if we really don’t want to or even if it seems like we can’t. That our opinion should not be taken into account, because we can always give in and be patient if something doesn’t suit us.

Tolerating is a bad strategy. You can give up everything you have planned, all your aspirations and ideas about your own life, your principles and ideals, and, ultimately, yourself, and be patient. But it is important to remember that this will not have any effect other than fatigue, disappointment and regret about wasted time.

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