7 signs your partner is using you

7 signs your partner is using you

Published 19.02.2024 | By Йосиф

7 signs your partner is using you

When you’re in love, the last thing you want is to find out that the person you care about isn’t who he pretends to be. Sometimes people stay in relationships just because they need something from you. And this is not a long-term relationship.

When you care about someone and love them deeply, you can be blind to what is really going on. However, some signs are undeniable…

1. They are the center of the Universe.

These people always dominate the conversation and don’t let you get a word in edgewise. If you finally manage to say something about yourself, they will interrupt and still turn the conversation to themselves.

George C. Simon’s book, The Manipulator in Sheep’s Clothing, will help you better understand the dynamics of manipulative relationships. How to avoid becoming a victim of his tricks.” It’s about how to recognize manipulative behavior and deal with it effectively.

2. They are only nice when they need something.

Most of the time they treat you with a sense of superiority. But when they need something from you, they are ready to kneel in an attempt to persuade you to give them what they want. And once they get theirs, they will climb back onto their pedestal.

3. They always find a reason to refuse help and support.

Whenever they need something from you, they are outright manipulative. But when it comes to the fact that you need the service, they are always unable to help.

4. They exchange affection for favors or gifts.

They are stingy with affection if you have nothing to give them. Every time you have money, connections or sec (what they actually use you for) for them, they are right there. As soon as they receive the “product”, they immediately lose interest in you.

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5. You often have to save them by getting them out of bad situations.

If something goes wrong, they call you to fix the situation. However, they will never do the same for you.

Often they don’t even say thank you. They just think it’s your responsibility to save them.

6. They have a right to what you have.

If you have something they want, they believe they have the right to it. They directly demand what they want, and if you don’t do it, they begin to manipulate.

Cultivating self-compassion is crucial, especially when you feel like you’re being taken for granted. Kristin Neff’s book Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Self-Kindness offers strategies for being kind to yourself and recognizing your worth.

7. They don’t care about your feelings.

These people don’t care at all what you feel or what you need. Every time you try to set boundaries, they push them. They can be very cruel when things don’t go their way.

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P.S. You see a typical dualistic good versus bad. In fact, all this, to a lesser or greater extent, is present in all people. It directly depends on their inferiority complex: the bigger it is, the more they want to prove that they are better. That is why there are so many people who want to dominate and use – for some it occurs rarely, for others daily. Yosif Yorgov