What happened in childhood remains in our subconscious as blocked energy

What happened in childhood remains in our subconscious as blocked energy

Published 15.02.2024 | By Йосиф

What happened in childhood remains in our subconscious as blocked energy

Children up to the age of 7 think that everything happens because of them. “If in childhood we lived in an environment that did not satisfy our needs, it creates a feeling that we have to be hypervigilant, to constantly pay attention to what is happening, whether everything is okay. We transfer this to our lives as adults – it can to be cautious, how are we doing in our relationship, can we trust each other,” explains Silvana Paneva.

Childhood traumas can manifest in our dreams, in our fears. “When a person has some kind of trauma, what happens is that he is not fully present in the present moment. He projects his past now and cannot fully see, for example, his partner because he projects his mother onto her and sees her instead of her partner,” she pointed out.

In our romantic relationships, we tend to pass on the pattern we learned from our parents. For our nervous system, what is familiar is safe, the clinical psychologist explained. “What we see as behavior – if the father withdraws and becomes cold when there is a scandal, we can translate that into our behavior. If the mother tends to take the blame, feel anxious, want everything to be okay and be responsible, we are inclined to take that as well,” Paneva gave examples.

The father’s presence – physical and emotional – in the child’s life is very important, she emphasized. “He is the male energy that is associated with strength, with confidence, with responsibility, with action. If it is absent, the child lacks confidence,” explained Silvana Paneva.

Forgiveness means being here and now. “If we can forgive ourselves for not doing our best at any particular moment, and that our parents, partners, and friends have also done their best, that’s a good thing. Anger can to be worked out, the nervous system to be calm, blocks from the past to be released,” explained the clinical psychologist.

In social networks, users usually show the best version of themselves. Often, however, it is not real and this creates the false feeling that we do not have what others have, that what we have is not enough. “Most people need external validation, someone to tell them, ‘You look good,’ they need to get 100 likes to know that this picture is nice. But if this can be turned around – to depend on ourselves, on whether we ourselves like each other, then it doesn’t matter that much,” said Paneva.

Teodora Pavlova

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