Modesty and humility

Modesty and humility

Published 03.02.2024 | By Йосиф

Modesty and humility

Modesty and humility are the skills of not striving to shine at any cost. According to positive psychology, there are 6 virtues and 24 powers of happiness. Modesty and humility are one of these powers, part of the virtue “Temperance”, related to the use of reason in order not to overdo it and live a balanced life.

What does it mean to be modest and humble? Are you a humble and humble person? And if you’re not, how do you become one?

What is “modesty” and “humility”?

Let’s start with a definition of modesty or humility. Modesty and humility means not placing too much importance on your own importance. The humble man lets his deeds speak for him. He doesn’t think he’s special or unique. The humble man imagines nothing.

True modesty consists of seeing and accepting yourself as you are and being clear about your strengths and gifts as well as your flaws and limitations.

In this sense, a humble person is one who knows himself and does not deny himself.

Modesty, humility and happiness

Why should we show modesty and humility?

In various religions modesty and humility are given very serious importance. In Eastern philosophies, for example, humility is seen as a primary quality and a source of inspiration, with the help of which we realize how much we have to learn and improve.

A modest and humble person manages to control his ego and live in peace with himself. He does not feel the need to constantly glorify himself and prove himself in his own eyes or in the eyes of others. A humble person lives in harmony with his essence, and such authenticity of character is directly related to happiness, success, meaning and morality in life.

Very instructive on the topic of modesty and humility are the findings of the famous business consultant Jim Collins. At the very beginning of the 21st century, he studied in detail 1435 excellent developing companies and found that only 11 of them were truly “great”. All of these eleven companies are run by executives that Collins calls “level 5 leaders”—the highest level of leadership skills. This level is only available to professional managers who possess modesty and humility to a strong degree. They strive to shine at all costs for the sake of their own careers, and instead help their associates develop and succeed.

Or, it turns out that modesty and humility in professional circles is inherent in people who are as high up in the hierarchy as possible. They know what they are, they are proud of who they are, but they don’t show arrogance towards others, they don’t overshadow them, they don’t compete with them and they don’t take credit for others. Thus, humble and humble leaders are strong and wise people.

Are you a modest and humble person?

So – modesty and humility are a power with the help of which we can not strive to shine everywhere at any cost.

In this regard, it is useful to ask oneself the question, “Am I a humble and humble person?”

Here are some questions that will help you understand if you are a modest and humble person, especially if you compare yourself to your surroundings:

Do I brag about my successes a little or moderately?

Am I living in harmony with myself?

Do I enjoy the success and happiness of others?

Am I interested in other people?

If most of the answers to these questions are “Yes”, then you are most likely a modest and humble person who does not want to stand out in any possible situation.

How to become more modest and humble?

How to be a more modest and humble person, so as not to strive to shine at all costs?

Here are some ideas:

Respect and respect the people around you. Everyone has an ego – you have it, but so do those around you. Praise people for their good deeds and give them credit for their successes. Let the people around you feel important and capable individuals. Thus, in addition to humility and modesty in your character, you will also enjoy good relationships with the most important people for you.

Let the deeds speak for you. Don’t brag if your actions can speak for themselves. Act proactively, set a personal example and let others form their own idea of your strengths, gifts and talents according to the results and achievements you have.

Say “No” to ratings for others. Refrain from criticizing others with or without reason. Stop sticking “labels”. Don’t make hasty judgments, especially if they don’t ask for your opinion. Your judgment is not always correct and is often much more subjective than you think. Pretending that your judgment of others is always correct is rather a manifestation of arrogance.

Say “Stop” to moral judgments about yourself. Don’t be too critical or too kind to yourself. Don’t constantly attribute any qualities or traits (good or bad) to yourself. If you manage to do it often enough, you will gradually acquire a more real, respectful and humble attitude towards yourself.

Admit your mistakes. When you make a mistake, say “Sorry” or “You’re right.” Human relationships are not a simple matter and in situations where you are wrong, it is better to be honest and humbly admit it, instead of insisting on turning the situation 180 degrees.

What is a meaningful life?

In summary:

Modesty and humility are one of the main strengths we need to develop in order to live more fully and happily.

Everyone could become more modest and humble if they only wanted to. If a person accepts himself as he is, respects others and is not in a hurry to promote himself or give hasty evaluations, he will not insist on shining at all costs, but will let his actions speak for him.

Teodora Pavlova

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P.S. If you consciously strive for modesty and humility, this is just another posture/role in life. A person throws himself out and demonstrates when he is eaten away by low self-esteem, i.e. he depends on other people’s opinion, that’s why he pretends to be someone he is not. If a person allows himself to have enough self-confidence, he becomes quite naturally modest and humble, because he does not care what others think of him. Yosif Yorgov