Toxic People

Toxic People

Published 23.01.2024 | By Йосиф

10 Toxic People Who Shouldn’t Be in Your Life

Vulnerability is never a sign of weakness.

Isn’t it time to do a spring cleaning of your social circle, clearing it of toxic people who undermine your self-confidence, betray you and spread negativity? Yes, we cannot live in complete isolation because we are social animals. We need empathy, compassion and positive incentives to survive in the jungle. Below are ten types of toxic people you should cut out of your life, or at least try to avoid.

1. Those who absorb your time like a sponge

It could be family members or friends who waste your time like bank robbers! They sing the same song and are used to only taking without giving anything in return. However, friendship requires mutual concessions.

Once you are convinced that they are unwilling to help or cannot offer you the support you need in return, then it may be time to reduce your communication with them to a minimum or cut ties with them altogether. They will waste too much of your time if you let them.

However, it is impossible to get rid of family members. Try a few tactics, like turning off your phone at certain times of the day or asking them to only call and text if it’s really necessary. We all need to be alone with ourselves from time to time.

“I think it’s very healthy to spend time alone. You need to learn to be alone and not depend on another person.” – Oscar Wilde

2. Those who criticize you too often

There’s nothing wrong with honest, fair feedback. But when you realize that certain people are constantly criticizing you, it may be time to take action. When criticism is not constructive, you can hint to them that your friendship will end if they continue this way.

You can also tell them that constant criticism does not help, but only frustrates you.

3. Those who constantly play the victim

They are masters of accusations. They never take responsibility for their own shortcomings or mistakes. They are victims, and it is certainly not their fault! Blame it on their colleagues or their upbringing, which never gave them a chance.

Such people must be avoided at all costs to avoid getting caught up in their blame game.

4 . Those with negative thinking

Such people spread negativity like a contagious disease. Avoid them at all costs. They try to drag others into the negative downward spiral they find themselves in. These are people who are always anxious, worried, pessimistic, depressed and complain a lot.

You need to get rid of them if you want to live longer, as a positive outlook adds years to your life. According to a study conducted by scientists from Yale University, a positive attitude towards life can extend it by as much as seven years.

5. Those who lose their cool and drain your energy

These are the people who drain you. Why should you tolerate their stupid, sometimes childish impulses? We all have difficult moments, but we need to learn to control ourselves. It’s okay to let people blow off steam, but why should you tolerate attacks on you?

Hot-tempered people are psychologically underdeveloped, their emotional intelligence fluctuates around zero, so you don’t want them in your environment.

6. Those who show neither empathy nor compassion

You don’t need people like that for the simple reason that they are incapable of showing empathy or understanding when you need it most. They have personality problems and exhibit narcissistic tendencies.

They cannot put themselves in another person’s shoes. And this is the key to social interaction and healthy, ethical behavior. This is why you need to exclude them from your social circle.

“Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them, humanity will not survive.” – Dalai Lama

7. Those who are not honest and lie to you

“Lies are not only words, but also silence.” – Adrienne Rich

Let’s say you shared something secret with a person, and after a while you found out that he told about it to everyone he could. You get angry and decide to end the friendship. However, dishonest people can cause harm in many other ways, such as lying about their debts or that they are having problems at work. They may also be insincere and lie to you about what they think about your behavior when you ask them for honest feedback.

These people can only ruin friendships because trust, sincerity and honesty are the most valuable qualities in any relationship. If they do this, they are not worthy of your friendship.

8. Those who manipulate and use you

There are people who maintain relationships only for benefits, for example, to meet some influential person through your help. They use gossip as a weapon and they always have a hidden agenda.

Manipulators know how to get information or identify your weaknesses, which they can then use against you. They will take advantage of your generosity and conscience, rarely giving anything in return. These people need to be avoided because they are taking advantage of you.

9. Those who intentionally cause pain

These people have a number of tactics and comments that can be very hurtful. It could be your parents who don’t like the way you are raising your children when your upbringing was less than ideal.

Sometimes people make cutting remarks that make you doubt your own integrity, diligence, or abilities.

You don’t have to put up with hurtful tactics. Friends and family members who use them undermine relationships instead of showing warmth, affection, and support. That is why you need to get rid of them.

10. Those who are stressed

Did you know that humans are programmed to think negatively and they are always worried about safety, health and survival? From an anthropological point of view, this makes sense, since life was much harsher in the days of the cavemen than it is now. Surprisingly, this built-in stress is still with us today. This is why when stressed people meet or call us, we must be prepared to confront them.

And there is no shortage of these people, since 75% to 90% of all doctor visits are related to stress! Research shows that any exposure to stress will affect our brain and performance in the long term.

We have enough stress of our own that there is no need to associate with people who are constantly stressed. To survive, we must distance ourselves from them.

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