20 Signs You’re the Child of a Toxic Parent

20 Signs You’re the Child of a Toxic Parent

Published 21.01.2024 | By Йосиф

20 Signs You’re the Child of a Toxic Parent

Do parents always love their child unconditionally, support and encourage their curiosity? Unfortunately no! Many children are under inadequate supervision or, conversely, will not receive the attention they deserve. Growing up in a toxic family means constant insults, dominance and humiliation leading to emotional disability in adulthood.
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Here are 20 signs of a toxic parent that is making your child’s life miserable:

Your parents don’t see or respect your boundaries.
Your parent makes fun of your shortcomings and makes fun of them.
Your parents don’t ask for your opinion. All decisions are made for you.
Your parents do not support you in difficult situations, but rather criticize and scare you.
Your parents always take their anger out on you because of their own failures and difficulties.
You are embarrassed or afraid to show your parents your feelings. You never cry in front of them, afraid that things will get worse.
You are afraid to tell your parents that you are angry with them or do not agree with their opinion.
Your parents tell you that they would love you more if you were smarter and more obedient.
Your parents deliberately make you feel guilty for their mistakes and miscalculations.
You are afraid to tell your parents about your achievements, expecting criticism and devaluation.
Your parents require you to praise and recognize their achievements. You have a responsibility to say you love them.
You are forced to do things that are not interesting or disgusting to you.
The feelings you experience towards your parents are fear and irritation.
You didn’t go through puberty and teenage rebellion. These processes happened to you as an adult, when you left your parents.
You were cultivated with the idea that you “owe” your parents. They owe for everything: food, clothing, education, recreation, the very fact of birth.
You are often told that the very fact of your birth destroyed or complicated the life of your parents. You’ve heard that it would be better if you weren’t born.
You were punished and scolded for even the slightest deviation from strict parental rules.
You are afraid to publicly admit your mistakes.
Your parents explained to you that their cruelty and aggression towards you is a manifestation of true love.
You are afraid to take on something new and unknown, expecting that you will inevitably fail.

Bottom line

If you can try on most of the items on the list, you are out of luck and your parents clearly had a toxic influence on you. Now you have to experience and overcome the traumas inflicted on you in childhood. It is more effective to do this with the help of a mental health professional.

Perhaps you yourself are a toxic parent, replaying the scenario of your childhood with your child.

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