13 things to remember when life hits you over the head

13 things to remember when life hits you over the head

Published 17.01.2024 | By Йосиф

13 things to remember when life hits you over the head

1. What is, is.

The Buddha famously says, “Your suffering is caused by your resistance to what is.” Think about this for a minute. This means that suffering is only possible when we refuse to accept what is happening. If you can change something, take action. But if change is impossible, then you have two options: accept the situation and let go of the negativity, or suffer for a long time, enthusiastically and passionately.

2. A problem only becomes a problem when you call it one.

We often become our own worst enemies. Happiness truly depends on perspective. If you consider something a problem, then your emotions and thoughts will be filled with negativity. Think about what lessons you can learn from the situation, and suddenly it won’t be a problem anymore.

3. If you want to change things, start by changing yourself.

Your outer world is a reflection of your inner world. You probably know people whose lives are full of chaos and stress. And doesn’t this happen because they themselves are in a completely random order? We like to think that changing circumstances change us. In fact, it works in the opposite direction: we must change ourselves in order to change our circumstances.

4. There is no concept of “failure” – only an opportunity to learn something.

You should simply eliminate the word “failure” from your vocabulary. All great people failed over and over again before they succeeded. I think Thomas Edison said this: “I did not fail in inventing the light bulb. I just found 99 ways it doesn’t work.” Learn something from your so-called failures. Find out how to do it better next time.

5. If you don’t get what you want, something better is on the way.

I know it’s hard to believe sometimes. But it’s true. Usually when you look back on your life, you realize that good things happened after things didn’t work out. Perhaps the job you weren’t hired for would have alienated you from your family, unlike the one you ended up getting. Just trust that everything is happening exactly as it should be.

6. Appreciate the present moment.

It will never come again. Every moment of life has something valuable, don’t let it pass you by. Soon everything will become a memory. Perhaps one day you will miss even those moments that do not seem happy now.

7. Let go of desires.

Most people live with a “tied mind.” This means that they attach great importance to their desires, and if they do not get what they intended, then their emotions become negative. Instead, try practicing detached mind: if you want something, you will still be happy whether you get it or not. Your emotions in this state remain neutral or positive.

8. Understand your fears and be grateful for them.

Fear can be a great teacher. And overcoming fear often brings you closer to victory. For example, when I was in college, I was afraid of public speaking. So now I find it funny that not only do I speak in front of a group of people every day as a teacher, but I also teach the art of public speaking. Overcoming fear just takes practice. Fear is just an illusion.

9. Allow yourself to experience joy.

Believe it or not, I know too many people who don’t allow themselves to have fun. They don’t even know how to be happy. Some are so dependent on their problems and inner chaos that they have no idea who they are without it all. So try to allow yourself to be happy. It may be a small moment, but it is important to focus on the joys rather than the difficulties.

10. Don’t compare yourself to others.

But if you compare, then only with those who are worse off than you. Unemployed? At least be grateful that you are receiving unemployment benefits. The majority of the world’s people live in extreme poverty. Don’t look like Angelina Jolie? I think there are very few people like her. And you’re probably a lot more attractive than most. Focus on this.

11. You are not a victim.

You are only a victim of your own thoughts, words and actions. Nobody does anything specifically for you or against you. You create your own experience. Take personal responsibility and realize that you can survive difficulties. You just need to start by changing your thoughts and actions. Give up the victim mentality and become a winner.

12. Everything can and will change.

“This too shall pass” is one of my favorite sayings. When we are stuck in a bad situation, we feel like there is no way out. It seems that nothing will change. But you know what? There will be changes! Nothing lasts forever except death. So give up the habit of thinking that everything will remain this way forever. It won’t stay. But you will have to take some action to change the situation. She won’t be able to magically change on her own.

13. Anything is possible.

Miracles happen every day. This is true. It’s a pity that it’s impossible to describe in one article all the amazing things that happened to my friends – from healing of the fourth stage of cancer to a sudden meeting with my soul mate. This happens all the time. You just have to believe that it happens. Once you believe, you can already win the battle.

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