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Life is a wise teacher

Life is a wise teacher

Published 15.01.2024 | By Йосиф

Life is a wise teacher

This is not said for rhetoric, but confirmed by experience. In the school of life it is impossible not to pass the lesson. If a lesson needs to be learned, then life will return time after time to the situation that needs to be learned, until a person fully learns this life lesson. Therefore, we call a person who has gone through many difficult life lessons a sage, an experienced person. It would be good to listen to the opinions of such people so as not to repeat the mistakes of others.
But that doesn’t happen. Until you get your own bumps on your forehead, the lesson is not considered passed. In life we can experience two states: either we grow and develop, or we degrade. And every life lesson we pass is sent to us precisely for growth and development. And there is no need to complain about the villainous fate. Complain about the trials we receive. Man is a very automatic being. We always tend to act using proven methods, rely on past experience, and act in stereotypical and stereotyped ways.
And it may even be that this state of affairs does not suit us, but this is more familiar and proven. And everything new scares and repels. Which means we get stuck in the comfort zone and degrade.
And if suddenly something happens that we did not expect (divorce, loss of loved ones, loss of job, etc.), we fall out of our usual way of life, become insolvent and unable to overcome these life lessons. Some are broken by difficulties, others are strengthened and forced to reconsider their past life and start working on themselves. Life has its own laws, and just because we are not ready for them, they do not stop working.
And here are some of them.
1. Life is a series of lessons we need.
Stop resisting what is happening. The action force is equal to the reaction force. The longer you scold, blame, resist what is happening in your life, the more you nullify your energy, and therefore reduce your life to nothing. Remember now your most difficult life situations. Surely it was very difficult, but you are the current result of these experiences. You today are the result of yesterday’s life experiences. And if you don’t like something about your current situation, it’s precisely because the lesson was not passed correctly. This means that a repeat of a similar situation awaits you ahead. You do not want? Then change voluntarily.
2. The Universe has no favorites.
Did it sometimes seem to you that someone was luckier, that he was born under a lucky star or that he was kissed by the Lord? Forget about it. Karma or destiny is the effect of our past and the reason for the future. You may not even realize what path the people who seem successful to you have taken. Everyone is given a cross that their back can bear. The Sower’s Law states that in order to reap the fruits, you must first work. If you are still unlucky, it means that your desire has not yet been paid for by you, you are simply not ready for success yet. It happens that great fame or money destroys a person and instead of growth and development, he degrades and dies.
3. Life is a mirror of our beliefs.
Beliefs are a person’s ideas about what is good and what is bad, what works and what does not work, what is right and what is wrong. Personality is a set of shells, in the center of which is the core, or ID. ID is the deepest human essence, self-identification. The way we feel about ourselves: “A budding entrepreneur”, “A person who is being treated unfairly”. The core is the most difficult to change, but it is self-identification that forms the next level – beliefs. Beliefs such as “The Internet is bullshit” or “The Internet is a working tool”, “Business requires money” or “All men are assholes.” Any descriptive characteristics of our reality are our beliefs. Beliefs form a new level called abilities.
Our abilities are our skills and abilities to implement something. Can we do something or can’t we, and if we can, how? – this is a question characterizing the level of our abilities. Abilities arise according to our beliefs.
Abilities provoke a pattern of behavior: action or inaction. Depending on what abilities you have. This is how our reality is formed. The indicator of reality is the people who surround us. You feel comfortable with people who think and behave like you. Like always strives for like. If a person disagrees with you or lives by different principles, you inevitably move away from him. Your social circle is your most accurate projection and the key to unlocking your own self.
Now let’s add the prefix “anti-”, or a minus sign, to each of these levels. So we will get antiID. Beliefs that should be developed turn into anti-beliefs that lead to degradation. Abilities become anti-abilities. Thus, a person implements anti-behavior and further strengthens his own anti-ID. Whining plays a major role in this story, and it’s scary.
A terrible phenomenon that not only prevents a person from rising to the top, but turns him, like a corkscrew, into a reality from which it becomes more and more difficult to get out every day.
4. Don’t get attached to anything.
Our hooks and attachments simply poison our lives and the lives of those to whom we are attached. Have you noticed the following paradox: the more a woman clings to her man, trembles over him, checks him, is afraid of losing and therefore devotes her life to him alone, the more he does not appreciate it. And not because he is a scoundrel, but because in this way his entire energy resists such dedication. Such a crush on a person deprives him of energy, makes him feel guilty and a sense of duty. And these feelings have nothing to do with love. And the woman herself is also unlikely to experience love. She rather loves her feelings with this person and tries to maintain the status quo. Manic commitment to something is a childhood feeling when a child does not want to share his things with anyone, identifies himself with them and even identifies.
If you really want something, you need to mentally let go of what you want to allow the energy to flow freely and bring that most desired thing into your reality.
5. Live as your heart tells you.
The more you follow the voice of reason, the more you drown out the voice of the soul and heart. If you have the opportunity to choose between the voice of your mind and the voice of your heart, feel free to choose the voice of your heart. It miraculously always knows what to do. Living as your heart tells you does not mean catering to your emotions and whims. The dictates of your heart are following your deepest values; these are your true desires, not those imposed by external circumstances.
Make a list of your talents and abilities, as well as a list of your favorite things to do in which they are expressed. This is how you will find your unique talents. Use them to serve others.
To do this, ask yourself as often as possible:
“How can I be useful (to the world, to the people I come into contact with)? How can I serve?
Discover your divinity, find your unique talent, and you can create any wealth you want. Deepak Chopra
On this occasion I like the following parable:
An old Hindu legend tells that there was a time when all people were Gods. But they neglected their Divinity. And Brahma, the Supreme God, decided to take away the Divine Power from them and hide it in a place where It could not be found. However, finding such a place was a big problem. And Brahma gathered all the supreme Deities together to solve this problem. And they suggested: “Let’s hide Divinity under the Earth!” But Brahma replied: “No, that won’t do. A person will start digging and will find Her again.” The deities offered another option: “Then let’s throw Her into the very depths of the Ocean!” But Brahma again replied, “No. Sooner or later, a person will explore the depths of the ocean and, having found Her, will bring her to the surface.” The deities were at a dead end, they did not know where they could hide the Divinity. And it seemed that there was no place on Earth or in the Sea that would be inaccessible to humans. But then Brahma objected: “This is what we will do with Divinity: We will hide It in the depths of man himself, because this is the only place where he will never look.” Since then, man has been rushing around the Earth to explore it all: since then he has been searching, ascending and descending, diving and digging in search of a thing that can only be found within himself!
6. The more you work, the more you get.
Don’t be under the illusion that success comes overnight. Success is 1% talent and 99% sweat. A person begins to experience a state of flow when he begins to do what he loves and everything difficult seems easy and unburdensome to him. This is only possible through great commitment to what you like, when desires and opportunities merge together and everything seems to come easy. But in reality the person is doing a great job.
Don’t look for easy ways; big targets are harder to miss.
7. Do not divide events into “bad” and “good”.
Give up your own rules and desire to evaluate everything that happens. All events are by definition neutral. When it rains, some people see muddy puddles in front of them, while others see reflective stars. Your vector of attention greatly influences your reaction to what is happening. If you believe in the opinion that life is evil and everyone around you is wolves, then those around you will bite and attack. How else? We strengthen the actions of those things to which we direct our attention, we water them with our energy. Only the quality of watering can be very different. Let’s draw an analogy with watering a flower bed: either water them with clean water or sulfuric acid. Do you understand? Both are liquid and both are manifestations of attention, only the vector of attention is different.
8. Accept people with all their pros and cons.
We came into this world to experience some kind of human experience. And who, if not other people, helps us in this task. And God has no other hands than the hands of other people, their influence on us, their actions. Of course, sometimes it can be difficult to accept a person who has sunk to the bottom, who behaves antisocially and destroys everything good around him. But this person can teach us something too. At least because we ourselves don’t want to be like that, to understand that there are other values for us and we don’t want to live like this person. Everything is relative. This person gives you the opportunity to compare.
By accepting people as they are, we lower our threshold of expectations for them, which leads to a calmer life. The normal state of mind is joy and peace. What makes us unhappy is our high expectations for ourselves, our loved ones, our level of income, our career, and much more.
A person with excessive expectations thinks that his environment is to blame for his unstable internal state. Both those around him and the person himself suffer from exorbitant demands.
Very often this manifests itself in the attitude of wives towards their husbands – a woman always thinks that her husband is not good enough, earns little, and does not know how to carry out her tasks correctly. At the same time, she completely forgets that she is not ideal either. The wife gnaws at her beloved and is constantly upset by his slowness. We do the same with children, demanding that they be neat and child prodigies – but they are just children learning the world through mistakes.
Excessive demands are also placed on oneself: you need to be the best, do everything at the highest level – this is where perfectionism arises. But here’s the rub—we often deserve exactly what we get. And our spiritual harmony depends only on perception. Either we will be too demanding of our life – and therefore unhappy because it does not meet our high expectations, or we will accept it as it is.
You just need to remember that the husband (wife) and children are living people, they also have their weaknesses, and not everyone is born to become presidents of million-dollar companies…
The first step towards combating the syndrome of inflated expectations is its awareness, understanding that this is a trap of self-deception that you should not fall into. If you constantly think that everything could be better, then you can suffer from this endlessly, since there is no limit to perfection. The most profitable investments are usually investments in yourself.
9. We are not meant to change the world around us, but ourselves.
Only constant self-development makes a person interesting, both to others and to himself.
“Everyone thinks to change the world, but no one thinks to change themselves” Lev Tolstoy
We are all ready to give advice to others, tell them how to behave, what to think, how to act, but few people work on themselves. And this is the biggest victory – to defeat your complexes, bad habits and limiting beliefs.
Very often, in order to live, we must change, sometimes this process is accompanied by pain, fear, doubt… We get rid of memories, habits and traditions of the past… Only liberation from the burden of the past allows us to live and enjoy the present and prepare ourselves for the future…
“Be the changes you want in your life” Mahatma Gandhi.
Change your thinking to be exclusively positive. Allow positive emotions and thoughts to dominate your mind and you will radically change your life.
Allow yourself to be who you are and let events happen on their own. Your task is to dream, move and observe what miracles life brings to you. And if something doesn’t work out the way you wanted, then it will be even better. Just relax and have fun.
Eduard Asadov has wonderful lines:
“Two people were looking out the same window:
One saw death and fear,
Fire, suffering and grief,
The world we know is collapsing.
Another saw spring there,
Blooming gardens and blue skies,
Beautiful green foliage…
Two people were looking out the same window…”
Only those who are able to see beauty in the dark are truly happy…
Author: Tatyana Sarapina
http://uduba.com/2147343/9-mudryih-jiznennyih-pravil-kotoryie-izbavyat-vas-ot-privyichki-bespokoitsya
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