Six phrases that manipulators use to keep their partner after cheating

Six phrases that manipulators use to keep their partner after cheating

Published 05.01.2024 | By Йосиф

Six phrases that manipulators use to keep their partner after cheating

Cheating is always a serious test for a relationship, and many couples break up due to loss of trust and pain caused.

Others, however, decide to stay together. And in this case, there is a chance that one partner has become a victim of skillful manipulation by the other. Here are six phrases that cheaters most often use to keep their partner in a relationship, writes Sekret Firma.

Greek scientists Menelaos Apostolou and Nikolaus Pediaditakis conducted a series of studies involving young people aged 20 to 30 years. During the surveys, they identified 6 tactics used by unfaithful partners to try to force their other halves to forgive them.

“It’s all your fault.” The cheater puts pressure on the fact that he lacked attention, care and love. In this way, he puts pressure on the feeling of guilt: the partner begins to feel that if he had behaved differently, nothing would have happened.

“Everyone makes mistakes!” Usually this is followed by words that relationships are important to a person and all that. But think: would someone who really cares about family dare to jeopardize its existence?

“It was just sex.” The purpose of such a phrase is to downplay the significance of betrayal in your eyes. At the same time, the traitor, obviously, does not even try to understand your feelings and your attitude towards betrayal.

“What about the children?” Often, unfaithful partners try to put pressure on the need to save the family at all costs. But at the moment of betrayal, they clearly weren’t thinking about family values, right?

“Let’s forget everything.” Those who want to quickly close the topic of betrayal and start moving on with their lives are asking for a second chance. But such an offense cannot be erased from memory with the snap of a finger.

“Let’s start all over again.” This phrase means that your partner does not care about your feelings and desires. Besides, where are the guarantees that, starting all over again, you will not end up with the same ending?

The study found that these tactics often actually lead the cheated person to forgive the infidelity. 40% of study participants said that they would find at least one of these manipulations convincing.

Another remarkable fact: the tactics that the cheater chose to apply pressure often “mirrored” the arguments that the second partner mentally gave himself when deciding whether to forgive his infidelity.

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