Fixating on a problem

Published 19.12.2023 | By Йосиф

Fixating on a problem or how to get out of a vicious circle of unresolved issues and find peace of mind

When people are looking for an answer to their question, for example, how to find a man, a relationship, or “I want a child”, or how to self-actualize, find a purpose, how to earn more money, they are looking for an answer in the plane of their question.

I want to earn money – I’m looking for sources of income. Those who are already on the topic of transformation go to psychologists to look for beliefs that block the flow of money.

Those who want a relationship, love, go to dating sites and other similar resources. Etc.

All this may be true, but when a person is fixated on solving a problem, all his thoughts are about it, he only closes this circle and walks on it.

He moves further and further away from himself, and, accordingly, from the answer.

Give your joy to life, get high in the moment

I once wanted a relationship, I really wanted to get married and have children. All my friends were already married or in a relationship, but I couldn’t do it, it didn’t work out.

I was constantly walking around with this question in my head, I thought that I was somehow not like that, I needed to get better. I was constantly developing, improving myself from the inside, reading various books on how to make myself better, how to be more sociable, sociable, open, how not to be afraid to get to know each other, how to improve my appearance.

It was all for the sake of a relationship.

Plunging into it all, I went further and further away from myself.

There were relationships that only brought pain in the end, I was abandoned. And I was thinking again that I had done something wrong, that I should be better in the next relationship, and so on.

And at one point I managed to switch, relax, and I began to give my life.

An important point! If before that I was trying to figure out how to receive, then here I began to give. To give joy, good mood, just get high. There were friends around who picked it up, and it started to spin.

I just started living, it’s interesting to live as much as I could.

I decided that since I’m not getting a relationship, a family, I’m just going to have fun. I wanted a serious relationship, but I will be happy and not serious if it brings me joy. I’m just going to live.

And in such a fulfilled state, I met my future husband.

Obsession with the problem. How to let go

It would seem that we want something, and it doesn’t seem to contradict the desires of the soul, but at some point we get so hung up that we lose touch with ourselves.

The question becomes more important than ourselves. A question for the sake of a question.

It happens that we live, and we kind of apply practices, like we are in touch with the Higher Self, but in fact we do not notice that we are in this question: “how to solve this, in what way?”.

We only open our eyes in the morning, and immediately this question arises. An obsession that lives side by side with us in the background.

And this just needs to be let go.

Also with weight loss: looking for ways to lose weight, exercise, adjust nutrition, looking for psychological causes of excess weight. But you just need to go higher, as much as it will allow you to see the solution.

And there is no need for a decision yet, all that is needed is to accept the body like this first.

If there is no money, no job, accept completely and completely the situation that you have no money and no job. That’s how it is now.

No relationship, no man – well, no. This is true.

By accepting this fact, you do not agree that this will always be the case. Now it’s like this.

If you get sick, have a cold, or have a fever, you admit it like that – I got sick. You don’t get depressed about it, you don’t claim that it will always be like this. This is the case now, and I admit it as a fact.

Overweight? Yes, I am overweight, and I accept it. To accept means to admit that it exists, not to run away from it: “Oh, I don’t see it, I don’t see it.” But there it is.

Accept, calm down and start living from a state of acceptance. Find something right now that will please you, fill you up.

The solution to the problem is not going anywhere. We are given difficulties not for the sake of difficulties, not only so that we can solve them, but so that you can look into yourself and return to yourself.

And we consider them difficulties, but in fact this is the way our soul tries to reach us.

It’s not the goal that matters, but the feeling

I have lived for many years on the principle of “I have set this goal, I have achieved it, now the next one.” It was all through overcoming, I clung to the result. Everything was like solving problems.

But in general, what do we want to get as a result of achieving any goals?

Happiness, harmony, satisfaction. We don’t really need goals, but the feeling of them. We need the state itself.

But you can go from the opposite, return to yourself, fill yourself with love and radiate this happiness, harmony. It’s available here and now, you just have to choose it.

It is then, already being in this state, many tasks are miraculously solved, something happens by itself, often circumstances develop in such a way that you manage to solve an unsolvable question.

And the weight goes away, and the relationship develops, and the child comes, and the beloved job is found, and self-realization.

Because being in harmony, in joy, in happiness most of the time, you radiate it outwards, and it comes back to you in a multiplied form.

But don’t fall into the trap either. Now I’m going to meditate, enjoy the birds, the flowers, and the universe will give me a man or money.

Come back to yourself for yourself, to be, to give. Don’t wait.

Actions performed in a state of balance and harmony, and actions out of lack of something, out of despair, may be the same, but different vibrations, different motives and, accordingly, different results will be.
Natalia Prokofieva

https://kluchimasterstva.ru/zacziklennost-na-probleme-obresti-dushevnoe-ravnovesie?utm_campaign=coschedule&utm_source=pinterest&utm_medium=%D0%9A%D0%BB

Fixating on a problem

Fixating on a problem

Fixating on a problem or how to get out of a vicious circle of unresolved issues and find peace of mind

When people are looking for an answer to their question, for example, how to find a man, a relationship, or “I want a child”, or how to self-actualize, find a purpose, how to earn more money, they are looking for an answer in the plane of their question.

I want to earn money – I’m looking for sources of income. Those who are already on the topic of transformation go to psychologists to look for beliefs that block the flow of money.

Those who want a relationship, love, go to dating sites and other similar resources. Etc.

All this may be true, but when a person is fixated on solving a problem, all his thoughts are about it, he only closes this circle and walks on it.

He moves further and further away from himself, and, accordingly, from the answer.

Give your joy to life, get high in the moment

I once wanted a relationship, I really wanted to get married and have children. All my friends were already married or in a relationship, but I couldn’t do it, it didn’t work out.

It was all for the sake of a relationship.

Plunging into it all, I went further and further away from myself.

There were relationships that only brought pain in the end, I was abandoned. And I was thinking again that I had done something wrong, that I should be better in the next relationship, and so on.

And at one point I managed to switch, relax, and I began to give my life.

An important point! If before that I was trying to figure out how to receive, then here I began to give. To give joy, good mood, just get high. There were friends around who picked it up, and it started to spin.

I just started living, it’s interesting to live as much as I could.

I decided that since I’m not getting a relationship, a family, I’m just going to have fun. I wanted a serious relationship, but I will be happy and not serious if it brings me joy. I’m just going to live.

And in such a fulfilled state, I met my future husband.

Obsession with the problem. How to let go

It would seem that we want something, and it doesn’t seem to contradict the desires of the soul, but at some point we get so hung up that we lose touch with ourselves.

The question becomes more important than ourselves. A question for the sake of a question.

It happens that we live, and we kind of apply practices, like we are in touch with the Higher Self, but in fact we do not notice that we are in this question: “how to solve this, in what way?”.

We only open our eyes in the morning, and immediately this question arises. An obsession that lives side by side with us in the background.

And this just needs to be let go.

Also with weight loss: looking for ways to lose weight, exercise, adjust nutrition, looking for psychological causes of excess weight. But you just need to go higher, as much as it will allow you to see the solution.

And there is no need for a decision yet, all that is needed is to accept the body like this first.

If there is no money, no job, accept completely and completely the situation that you have no money and no job. That’s how it is now.

No relationship, no man – well, no. This is true.

By accepting this fact, you do not agree that this will always be the case. Now it’s like this.

If you get sick, have a cold, or have a fever, you admit it like that – I got sick. You don’t get depressed about it, you don’t claim that it will always be like this. This is the case now, and I admit it as a fact.

Overweight? Yes, I am overweight, and I accept it. To accept means to admit that it exists, not to run away from it: “Oh, I don’t see it, I don’t see it.” But there it is.

Accept, calm down and start living from a state of acceptance. Find something right now that will please you, fill you up.

The solution to the problem is not going anywhere. We are given difficulties not for the sake of difficulties, not only so that we can solve them, but so that you can look into yourself and return to yourself.

And we consider them difficulties, but in fact this is the way our soul tries to reach us.

It’s not the goal that matters, but the feeling

I have lived for many years on the principle of “I have set this goal, I have achieved it, now the next one.” It was all through overcoming, I clung to the result. Everything was like solving problems.

But in general, what do we want to get as a result of achieving any goals?

Happiness, harmony, satisfaction. We don’t really need goals, but the feeling of them. We need the state itself.

But you can go from the opposite, return to yourself, fill yourself with love and radiate this happiness, harmony. It’s available here and now, you just have to choose it.

It is then, already being in this state, many tasks are miraculously solved, something happens by itself, often circumstances develop in such a way that you manage to solve an unsolvable question.

And the weight goes away, and the relationship develops, and the child comes, and the beloved job is found, and self-realization.

Because being in harmony, in joy, in happiness most of the time, you radiate it outwards, and it comes back to you in a multiplied form.

But don’t fall into the trap either. Now I’m going to meditate, enjoy the birds, the flowers, and the universe will give me a man or money.

Come back to yourself for yourself, to be, to give. Don’t wait.

Actions performed in a state of balance and harmony, and actions out of lack of something, out of despair, may be the same, but different vibrations, different motives and, accordingly, different results will be. Natalia Prokofieva

https://kluchimasterstva.ru/zacziklennost-na-probleme-obresti-dushevnoe-ravnovesie?utm_campaign=coschedule&utm_source=pinterest&utm_medium=%D0%9A%D0%BB

Actions performed in a state of balance and harmony, and actions out of lack of something, out of despair, may be the same, but different vibrations, different motives and, accordingly, different results will be.
Natalia Prokofieva