Leave on time

Leave on time

Published 03.12.2023 | By Йосиф

Leave on time

Leave on time. Home, even if no one is waiting for you there, from an incendiary party, from guests without a “pososhka”, from inappropriate connections and bad habits. From depression and dark thoughts, from hard memories, from relationships that have outlived themselves, from people destroying you, or from the person next to you.
Give him and yourself a chance to find someone (and maybe yourself) who will be better, more comfortable, calmer in the form that each of you needs. If you are not able to give it to each other for one reason or another, do not deprive each other of trying and hoping to find it in other relationships and in yourself.
Do not be greedy, do not take away from others their chances of being happy the way they understand it, and from yourself – your own. Because each of us is at his own point of evolution, moves in his own rhythm, radiates at his own frequency, vibrates on his own wave and gets his own experience.
And if you have entered into resonance with someone, you have found each other and are dancing a dance together. And if there is a prolonged dissonance, then get the necessary experience, sign under it, thank you. And leave on time.
Do not set in motion a mechanism that will crush you under the harsh yoke of circumstances when you will be forced to make a decision in conditions much less convenient for you. Where you will have to slip out from under the millstones of very superficial, but painfully hurtful “public” judgments that do not care about your true, sincere and vital motives, about your exhausted patience and long attempts to “save” something, to “save” someone.
Leave on time, do not leave deep scars on the body of your life, do not infect your soul with a voracious virus of guilt — a feeling that with incredible zeal rejects you from your exclusively single life and from yourself. Leave on time, do not burn the drawings on the fragile fabric of your destiny. And do not encroach on someone else’s skin.
Value your life more than others value your life. Leave on time if someone puts their life above yours, because you are primarily responsible for your life and only then for someone else’s. No one came into this life to lie down on the sacrificial altar. And life is not given to a person in order to sacrifice great gifts — life itself and the ability to love.
It is not difficult to lose yourself, it is not difficult to dissolve yourself in another, in someone else’s life, in someone else’s world, in someone else’s reality. It is not difficult even to demand and desire this.
Finding yourself is hard. Only we can determine and allow the measure of self-use. After all, sacrificing yourself idly, in excess of the measure of participation in someone’s life allotted to you, you automatically do not give yourself (or maybe to someone who sincerely needs it), or at some other segment of your life you will not have enough at all – just those wasted forces.
Any relationship is fruitful when there is an exchange, interaction, and return. It’s a pair dance. But if you start trampling each other’s feet to the point of pain and blood, you need to stop this dance and, after healing the wounds, start a new beautiful dance, perhaps with a new partner. And so it is in any relationship — partnership, family, work.
Learn to leave on time both inside the situation and from the situations and circumstances themselves in your life. You always know this point: trust yourself, do not persuade yourself, do not be deceived and do not deceive others.
There are no bad people, no matter how much we would like to argue about it. There are people who are different from us. For the true meaning of this sacrament under the sacred name of life is unknown to us, but absolutely everything that is inside and outside, beyond our understanding and within its limits, animate and inanimate, is filled with it. And there is no other responsibility except to ourselves and each other, but first of all — to ourselves.
Everything that happens in our lives, everything that happens around us and on the distant Galapagos Islands of Ecuador, happens with our permission. We allowed our life to be what it is, we brought this time of change into action, we tore the lever from that spring that broke out with all its compressed and pumped force and is now beating in convulsively chaotic free floating. We allowed gray shades to prevail in our lives, we allowed ourselves to be afraid of everything, we allowed ourselves to be outsiders in our own lives.
Look around, maybe it’s time to get away from this. It is incredibly difficult to give up everything that has outlived its usefulness and leave, no matter what anyone writes about it. It is difficult to leave, but it is absolutely necessary to leave on time. Mature inside your infinity as much as you need, but leave on time.
Get away from the judgments and opinions of others in time, turn your gaze to yourself. Where is your fulcrum? After all, this is the only way you can turn the whole world around. Don’t look for it in others, another, another. I’ll give you a secret — she’s not there! As there is no happiness in someone if it is not in you.
Get away from obsessive illusions and imposed fears in time, but keep striving, keep dreaming, keep trying. Don’t be afraid to make a mistake, because it means that you have tried. Don’t be afraid of other people’s reactions, you still won’t be able to predict it one hundred percent until you do what you want, and if you can, then fear is pointless. But you will have a chance to leave in time. Yes, it is to leave and move on.
We understand when we don’t have something, what we would like to have, when we were not given something, but we waited. But we never think about what we were saved from by not giving us what we want now.
The truth is simple: everything comes on time, even miracles. Therefore, leave on time, do not detain anyone. Because if you linger, the script of life is already being rewritten for other people.
Tatiana Varukha (taken on FB).

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