7 signs that Your Marriage has cracked

7 signs that Your Marriage has cracked

Published 29.09.2023 | By Йосиф

7 signs that Your Marriage has cracked

You spend a lot of time apart.

Of course, a husband and wife with a long experience of family life do not have to be together always and everywhere. But being a couple means having a common space, and if one of you is no longer important or interested, this is a bad sign. Do both of you (or one of you) prefer to spend time at work, with friends, online, that is, anywhere but just the two of you? Think about it.

You don’t get support from each other.

Harmonious relationships are possible only in those couples where there is a willingness of each partner to help each other. If your spouse constantly refuses to even listen to you or share his own needs, if requests for support always remain unanswered, the marriage will not last long: it is impossible to change relationships alone, family life is a pair dance. A good rule of thumb: even if nothing has changed after numerous discussions over the course of a year, perhaps it’s time for everyone to go their own way.

Respect has disappeared from the relationship.

One of the most important aspects of a healthy marriage is the mutual respect of spouses for each other. In practice, this can be expressed in a variety of ways, but if one of the partners constantly feels rejected, forced to defend himself, his desires and needs are always in last place — there is no question of respect.

You are no longer a team.

In a harmonious family, both partners are ready to act as a well—coordinated team – in everything from raising children and housekeeping to clashes with the outside world. And, of course, they support each other in everything too — in goals and plans, in career, in personal ambitions. If you both notice that you are moving in completely different orbits, this is a sign of serious problems.

You can’t agree when discussing important issues.

In marriage, there are many topics that have to be discussed — finances, leisure, relationships with relatives, parenting, etc. But if, for example, one of you is absolutely sure that he wants a second child, and the other categorically disagrees with him and refuses to even discuss such a possibility, this is an occasion to think about the value of your relationship. Having common goals and willingness to compromise is an important part of family life.

You don’t communicate with each other anymore.

No one, even the smallest problem in marriage can be solved without an open and sincere conversation. If you have reached the point where your communication is reduced to SMS “Buy milk”, your marriage is under threat. By the way, the absence of loud quarrels against the background of the “silent war” is also a bad sign: an emotional showdown means that the husband and wife do not care, they still cause each other feelings. So, everything can still be fixed.

Chronic failure to fulfill promises.

You often hear from each other something like “I forgot and didn’t promise anything at all”, “These are such little things, don’t get started.” Yes, it happens that we do not fulfill our promises to each other — from forgetfulness or frivolity. But for some couples, this turns into a chronic form, and sometimes they even manage to accuse each other of an excessive desire to control everything. But regrets, apologies and willingness to improve are worthless if not backed up by real actions.

Evgeniya Golobokova

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